How do you make the choices in your life? When you make agreements –or ask for what you want, are you stuck in a strategy? You might say no to this, and I’m encouraging you to check in and explore more deeply how you are weaving your life choices together.
Read MoreThe struggle can be real, navigating the filters that we have, especially when we are in a conversation with someone else, who has their own filters
Read MoreAs you know by now, saying yes when we mean no leads to resentment. We blame the other person for asking. This can often lead to avoiding people, leaving them confused or hurt, not understanding why you are choosing more distance.
Read MoreConfusing what you think about a situation with what actually happened can lead to distress in your relationships. It happens more often than you might think.
Read MoreTriggered? It means you are no longer in control of your response in the present becuase you are wired to your past in some way.
Read MoreThere are lots of memes out there suggesting that ‘they’ are the cause of your relationship problems.. I think it isn’t just that simple. You might have something to do with it.
Read MoreThe name of this game is how many strategies can we come up with to meet the needs of all involved. The winner of this game is you and all of the folks you have relationships with.
Read MoreThere are some lucky folks who just adore the holiday season. It reminds them of their childhoods filled with laughter and family. Perhaps they have created rituals of their own, or are carrying on family traditions that are filled with meaning. A time of giving and receiving, and being surrounded by loved ones. Then there are the rest of us.
Read MoreWhen I discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) it was an instant click. Most people I work with are also quite inspired by the Nonviolent Communication process. What makes the difference for people working to shift their relationships? Practice.
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