What if I (or you) felt confident and excited to share all of who we are, no matter what? What if we truly opted out of good, bad, right, wrong thinking and into a deep sense of care and curiosity about ourselves and each other? I was astounded at how compelling this idea was and still is for me.
Read MoreOne of the most difficult places people find themselves in is the question ‘have I tried enough?’ in my relationship. Should I stay or should I go? For many this question just spins inside their heads over and over, leaving them stuck. Feeling stuck and resigned, resentful and guilty, sad and angry. And hopeless
Read MoreSharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation. And the power over in controlling our kids. Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids. We want them to like us, be our friends. It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.
Read MoreEvery year the holidays come around. And every year we make choices about where to go and who to see. Here are a few (3) tips to help you navigate a challenging holiday season.
Read MoreIn any kind of partnership, whether it is your significant other, friends, work colleagues or even parent/child relationships, I encourage asking for impact rather than asking permission. You no longer need permission. Perhaps in a healthy culture, you never did.
Read MoreOne of the primary touchstones of compassionate consciousness is that we hold everyone’s needs dear. Meaning in our relationships we are considering solutions or strategies that meet the needs of all involved. It’s a we thing. I have found that this is a place where people get a bit stuck.
Read MoreTrust. It’s so important in relationships. Trust is most often thought about in the context of trusting someone else. Yet, trusting another person is only part of the story.
Read MoreMost people say they value honesty in a relationship. It seems like a no-brainer. Of course we want honesty. Yet true and consistent honesty remains elusive to many.
Read MoreI watched what happened between Will Smith and Chris Rock on the Oscars. The exchange offers the most perfect classic opportunity to talk about the ideas behind Nonviolent Communication. My first pass at writing something was quite educational (and dry). I’m realizing I want to write about what is in my heart.
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